In Memory of RBG. Giving up is a luxury that none of us can permit ourselves

Whether it be in our own personal battles or world events the memory of The Notorious RBG will live on within us all.

Ruth Bader Ginsburg is an inspiration to be revered and respected.

Excerpted from the New York Times 9.29.2020 – Jennifer Weiner

Giving up is a luxury that none of us can permit ourselves. It is the last thing the Notorious R.B.G. would want — and the least Jewish thing we could do.

I thought about the meaning of Judaism when I read the obituary for Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg in The Guardian. Without offering any proof, the obituary asserted that Justice Ginsburg had “abandoned her religion” at 17, when she found herself excluded because of her gender from the minyan, or group of 10 observant Jews, who said the prayer for the dead for her mother.

I remember the words from the Torah exhortation framed on Justice Ginsburg’s wall and woven into one of her lace jabots: Justice, justice, shall you pursue. And another Jewish teaching that she must have known, which says, “You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it.”

Credit…Collection of the Supreme Court of the United States, via Associated Press
 American Jews were quick to push back against the newspaper. R.B.G. attended services — at least, occasionally. She spoke openly and proudly about her Judaism. She kept a mezuza, or a prayer scroll, on the door of her chambers, and an Old Testament quotation on her wall. After an outpouring of complaints, The Guardian adjusted the article’s language to say that although the justice “moved away from strict religious observance” she “nevertheless remained deeply committed to her Jewish identity.”

The controversy, however, left me with a question: What does it mean to be Jewish in America? And what, especially, does it mean to be Jewish right now?

I can’t answer for R.B.G. But most Jews will tell you that a Jewish identity has little to do with whether you keep kosher or attend services every Friday, and everything to do with your culture, your ethnicity; with the way you see the world and the way the world sees you. It is an identity we can’t slip, even if we want to.

From what I can tell, Ruth Bader Ginsburg didn’t want to. She might not have been a regular at synagogue or at Sisterhood meetings, but she lived a Jewish life.

She was, for starters, a mensch, a boss who treated her clerks like family, serving them birthday cakes (that her husband baked) and helping them find partners. A piece of Jewish lore holds that a Jew who makes three successful matches automatically ascends to the highest level of heaven. I’d give the justice extra credit for not just making those matches but officiating at some of their marriages.

Jewish values run through her writings like a shining thread. If you’ve been excluded, you fight for inclusion. If you’ve been made to feel less-than, because of your gender or your sexual orientation or your race or your religion, you stand up for others who’ve been denied a seat at the table. The notion of tikkun olam, that the world is broken and that each of us has a role in its repair, is a value that would lead someone to a life like hers. It is a value that overlaps with the highest American ideals.

As a woman, as a feminist, as the mother of daughters, as a Jew, I am devastated that we won’t have Justice Ginsburg as our advocate and role model. In the days of Presidents Bill Clinton and Barack Obama, her presence on the bench was a symbol of progress, a crucial step in the right direction. In the days of Donald Trump — an era that has brought us rising incidents of anti-Semitism, and the Tree of Life massacre — she was a bulwark.

She was also a living, breathing rebuke to a president who saw “very fine people” on both sides of a white-power rally where one side chanted “Jews will not replace us” — a president who has allegedly complained about Jewish clannishness and ingratitude for everything he’s done for Israel, which, by the way, is the country to which he seems to think our primary allegiance lies.

I haven’t become significantly more observant in the last four years. But I have never felt more Jewish. The rise in anti-Semitism, the torrents of toxic online abuse directed toward Jewish women, the idea that Jews are not “really” Americans — all of it has only rooted me more deeply in my faith and my identity, and made me more committed to Jewish values.

In this terrible year of so much sorrow, losing Ruth Bader Ginsburg — and losing her on the eve of Rosh Hashana, at the start of the High Holy Days, at the end of an old year and on the cusp of a new one — felt especially painful. It’s hard not to give into the despair of worst-case scenarios: that Mr. Trump will lie about the election results, that his Republican enablers will cheer him on, that our democracy will die, not in darkness, but at the Supreme Court.